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Egg\/double donation is often not the patient\u2019s first choice on their journey towards a child. Behind nearly every decision to do egg\/double donation treatment is a history of several failed IVF attempts. However, we are sure that you have done enough to become a mother to a genetic child and we are sure that you have many reasons to be proud of yourself when it comes to everything you have done so far! Now it\u2019s time to increase your chances and finally become a mother!<\/p>\n
When you have decided to go through egg\/double donation treatment we know that there are a lot of ethical and emotional thoughts and feelings that needs to be sorted out. We know that you want to go through this treatment and feel normal, feel inner peace, and feel that this treatment will finally give you the child that you have wanted for such a long time. The child project involves emotions, money, focus and time and we know you feel that you deserve a result. You deserve to achieve your goal, your wanted child! You will feel It is not logical for you to go through such a demanding project without a result.<\/p>\n
Would you like to\u00a0discuss your situation and see how we\u00a0can help?<\/p>\n
Get free advice<\/a><\/p>\n <\/a><\/p>\n Are you aware that your maternal instinct is\u00a0actually affecting your thoughts and feelings before your pregnancy? You are wondering if\u00a0you can bond to\u00a0your unborn \u00abdonor egg baby\u00bb, if\u00a0you will feel it\u2019s yours, if\u00a0you are going to\u00a0tell, or\u00a0not to\u00a0tell the child about the conception through egg donation and you are wondering about how the child will react and grow up\u00a0knowing this?<\/p>\n You see? You already think as\u00a0a\u00a0mother, you are concerned on\u00a0your child\u2019s behalf because you want to\u00a0do\u00a0your best for your child. You have already started your motherhood! Maybe you want to\u00a0plan how you will react, think and feel after given birth to\u00a0your child? Why not trust your instinct? That your love and your maternal ability will develop in\u00a0relation to\u00a0your child?<\/p>\n\n When you make the decision to undergo egg\/double donation, you make the decision that your coming child will exist. This child would never exist without your decision to use egg\/double donation treatment.<\/p>\n The donor egg fertilized with your partner\u2019s sperm\/donor’s sperm is a combination that would never happen without this decision! The donor egg is worthless without sperm, and your uterus. You are totally necessary to create this miracle!<\/p>\n An egg donor doesn\u2019t think about her egg donation as giving away a child. An egg donor does not want to be a part of your child\u2019s life. The egg donor only wants to help couples to become parents and donate a little necessary puzzle piece to complete the puzzle that you<\/strong> made possible.<\/p>\n You are the mother of\u00a0this child\u2019s existent.<\/p>\n During pregnancy you already start the bonding process with the child. When you feel the child inside of\u00a0you miracles happen. The child responds to\u00a0your touch, by\u00a0displaying more movements as\u00a0a\u00a0way of\u00a0communication. The bond extends beyond language.<\/p>\n If\u00a0someone asks you to\u00a0describe your unborn child in\u00a0the latest months of\u00a0your pregnancy, we are sure you are able\u00a0to.<\/p>\n You are the one that knows this child, carrying it\u00a0and protect this child into this world.<\/p>\n To tell, or not to tell your child about its conception through egg\/double donation depend on your values, your ethical point of view, your culture and society and what gives you and your partner inner peace. You don\u2019t need to hurry with these decisions. Studies shows, that if you decide to tell, the best age to tell is when the child is between 5 and 7 years old. So you actually have at least 6 years to prepare yourself!<\/p>\n We\u00a0will give you some good advice about how to\u00a0tell the child when that times comes.<\/p>\n Wondering how to tell the child and when?<\/p>\n Get free advice<\/a><\/p>\n <\/a><\/p>\n It\u2019s not possible to\u00a0have all the answers\u00a0to\u00a0all the questions you\u2019ll naturally have prior to\u00a0the birth of\u00a0your donor egg child!<\/strong><\/p>\n Patients often have the same questions and concerns prior to\u00a0committing to\u00a0egg donation. Many issues we\u00a0can help you with but it\u00a0is\u00a0not always necessary or\u00a0even possible to\u00a0come up\u00a0with all the answers straight away. Some answers will be\u00a0dependent on\u00a0how having a\u00a0baby affects you and your family, the temperament and character of\u00a0your hoped-for child and the way in\u00a0which attitudes of\u00a0our society alter with time.<\/p>\n When considering whether to choose egg\/double donation, you naturally want to gather as many facts and figures as you can, so as to become well informed and confident in your decision-making process. Certainty and confidence in the facts brings reassurance and ultimately inner calm. It is natural to seek inner calm over turmoil and have the conviction that the decision your making is the right one for you. We all want to avoid looking back and having regrets and feeling like we made a bad choice or didn\u2019t do the very best for our children. When it comes to egg donation we are no different, we want to do the best we can for our hoped-for child.<\/p>\n These are some of\u00a0the important questions that patients require to\u00a0be\u00a0addressed:<\/strong><\/p>\n Concerned with these questions?\u00a0<\/p>\n Ask parents who have children through egg\/double donation!<\/p>\n Free advice!<\/a><\/p>\n\n These important questions unfortunately are not straight forward to answer and the full answers can only be found in the future. Unfortunately, we cannot predict with certainty what the future will hold; all we know is the here and now. Still we naturally seek to resolve these questions prior to making the choice to become pregnant through egg\/double donation.<\/p>\n \nThe way\u00a0we view\u00a0it, it\u00a0is\u00a0hard to\u00a0foresee what the correct answers to\u00a0these questions are prior to\u00a0a\u00a0donor egg pregnancy and\u00a0we say this for the following reasons:<\/strong><\/p>\n To conclude:<\/strong><\/p>\n So, you can see it\u2019s not always necessary or even possible to have all the solutions to all the questions prior to commencing egg\/double donation treatment. You can only trust in your instincts to make the right choices in the here and now with the best information you can get. You and your feelings may alter over time, but today, you can make a decision about your future baby that feels right for you and them right now.<\/p>\n We\u00a0know that your desire for a\u00a0child comes from the energy of\u00a0your natural maternal instinct. All your worries are based on\u00a0your care, concern and love for your hoped-for child. That knowledge should allow you inner peace, knowing that you will always do\u00a0your best for them and this should give you the confidence to\u00a0be\u00a0able to\u00a0make the decisions that are right for you and your future child today: that\u00a0is, after all, the best that you can ever\u00a0do!<\/p>\n We are the first generation that will do egg\/double donation treatment, that is why we need to experience this process by ourselves. We cannot ask our parents how it was for them to go through the same. It is still taboo and not legal in several countries. But what we know is that behind every decision to do egg\/double donation we find love; a lot of love from becoming parents. We find a strong maternal instinct and a perfect family to grow up in! We are sure that you look at egg\/double donation as your best solution and possibility to become a mother. We know that you deserve this alternative after all that you have been through.\u00a0<\/p>\n We\u00a0want to\u00a0help you towards your motherhood, and your dream!<\/p>\n Would you like to\u00a0discuss your situation and see how we\u00a0can help?<\/p>\n Get free advice<\/a><\/p>\n <\/a><\/p>\n I have been in touch with this lady before, prior to her becoming pregnant through egg donation. That time she had wanted to discuss her ethical concerns when it came to egg donation, she was worried that she would find it hard to bond with a child that was not genetically linked to her.<\/p>\n I encounter this issue frequently with patients who are preparing for or have just undergone their egg donation treatment. On becoming pregnant after having egg donation treatment the patient is adjusting to their new situation. Time is needed to establish and accept their donor egg pregnancy and to gather their thoughts and emotions when considering the ethical concerns of pregnancy with egg donation. They can require time and support to gain the confidence and self-belief that they really will be able to carry their baby to full term.<\/p>\n How long does it normally take to feel more relaxed, optimistic and confident that she is indeed pregnant and to allow herself to begin bonding with the baby growing within her?<\/p>\n I often observe that this miraculous emotional transition happens on seeing her body begin to change shape and feeling the presence of the baby within her. This has a calming influence, allowing her to believe in her pregnancy and giving her the confidence and freedom to emotionally bond with her baby that she is nurturing.<\/p>\n The women I spoke to recently was certainly no longer fearful, she was joyous and open about her loving feelings to her donor egg baby developing and thriving within her; this was her baby and hers alone!<\/p>\n I asked her if she would mind putting down in words her experience throughout her pregnancy. She was more than happy to, so that she could help reassure others who are fearful about a pregnancy after egg donation. As she had taken to composing letters to the baby in her uterus, she suggested that she could write her thoughts down in the form of one of these letters.<\/p>\n These are the words she put down:<\/strong><\/p>\n My dearest daughter,<\/p>\n You are very special and were very much wanted.<\/p>\n We travelled to St. Petersburg where we were given a magical egg.<\/p>\n Going to St. Petersburg itself was a wonderful experience, we enjoyed a special holiday and we created you out of the magical egg and the seed from your dad. You were placed in my tummy so that I could protect and nurture you with my love. Often I had wondered whether I would be able to give you the same level of love as I have your brother. My love for him is huge; at least all the way to the moon and back again! But my love for you has grown with every passing day and I can say that I love you easily as much as him.<\/p>\n During my first few months of being pregnant with you, I was worried that I might lose you and I was looking for signs every single day that I really was pregnant.\u00a0 There were only a few people including your dad, who knew how you were created and placed in my womb. I was bursting to tell everyone that I was pregnant with you, but I wanted to be sure that you made it through those crucial early few months first.<\/p>\n When that time came, it was wonderful relief to finally be-able to tell your brother about you. He was so excited to know that he\u2019s got a little sister growing inside me and he can\u2019t wait to meet you when you arrive! All our friends and family were also delighted to know that I was pregnant with you.<\/p>\n I have loved my pregnancy, but prior to becoming pregnant and before the time I could feel you moving in my belly I was fearful that I would have trouble bonding with you. Fortunately, bonding with you was effortless and came about naturally \u2013 it was the moment I first sensed you inside me. It felt like a little bubbling sensation, that in turn created bubbles of joy within me. Not long after, I felt your movements, hiccups and little kicks! My love for you has been growing and growing, the more I\u2019m aware of you growing within me \u2013 you are truly part of me!<\/p>\n The times I go for a swim, you move with me like you\u2019re practicing your backstroke!<\/p>\n If I cry, you jump about to cheer me up!<\/p>\n When I put my feet up for a bit of rest and me time you bounce about to remind me that you\u2019re there!<\/p>\n My love for you is still growing.<\/p>\n It\u2019s now only two months until you come and join your family and we can\u2019t wait to meet you!<\/p>\n From your mother who loves you with all her heart!<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n Danish woman aged 44<\/p>\n My wish is that this letter will reassure patients and help them to overcome some of their emotional and ethical dilemmas and concerns about becoming pregnant after egg\/double donation. I also hope that it will encourage and comfort patients that can relate to these feelings in the early period of their pregnancy.<\/p>\n Believe in your motherly instincts and have confidence that your affections for your child will emerge and flourish, even though you may have needed a little assistance from a magical egg :)<\/p>\n Tone Braten,\u00a0Family counsellor<\/em> Would you like to talk to parents who have children through egg\/double donation!<\/p>\n Get free advice<\/a><\/p>\n Five-year-old Lily came from a Fairytale Land on the other side of the rainbow. A land where everything is magical and glowing, and any miracle can happen. Lily herself is a miracle \u2014\u00a0and that\u2019s where she came into being. This is the story of how Lily\u2019s mum and dad travelled far, far away to that special land to find the magical egg that would give them the baby they wanted more than anything in the world.<\/p>\nYour maternal instinct affects you<\/h2>\n
The parents of\u00a0the child\u2019s existence<\/h3>\n
Early bonding to\u00a0the child<\/h3>\n
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Tell or not to tell your child about egg\/double donation?<\/h3>\nIt\u2019s not possible to\u00a0have all the answers now!<\/h2>\n
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First generation that does egg\/double donation treatment<\/strong><\/h3>\n
A mother\u2019s letter to her donor egg baby in her belly<\/h2>\n
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I met with an extremely delighted woman very recently. She informed me that she was in her eight month of pregnancy after her egg donation treatment. Her baby was going to be a little girl and would become sister to her three-year-old little boy.<\/p>\n![\"My](\"\/i\/letter_to_donor_egg_child.jpg\")
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<\/a>A book about Lily from the other side of the rainbow will help you tell your child about her\/his conception through egg donation<\/h3>\n