When I talk to couples I find it\u2019s just as important to focus on the man before IVF treatment<\/strong> as the woman. Normally a woman gets lots of attention and focuses during fertility treatment, this is because she is the most important part when it comes to the hormonal and surgical aspects of treatment. However, when it comes to the emotional and ethical part of IVF <\/strong>the man is just as important as the woman.<\/p>\n A man needs to be listened to, a man needs to be respected, a man needs time to process his thoughts and feelings; he doesn\u2019t want to be pushed into treatment!<\/p>\n A happy woman is a man\u2019s biggest IVF motivation, this doesn\u2019t mean that he is not motivated by the thought of a child, but the child is not here yet and men like to deal with the reality as they live in the here and now.<\/p>\n A woman is more motivated by her maternal instinct and by her thoughts and dreams of her future child. I have talked to men that have only prepared themselves practically and not emotionally for IVF treatment<\/strong>. They have organized trips, paid for treatment and supported their partner, but they have not prepared themselves enough for the emotional part of the \u2018child project\u2019. A project that will create a miracle, a project that finally can give him a son, or a daughter, a project that will give him a happy wife. When the IVF attempt<\/strong> is getting closer and the man is not emotionally prepared he can start to doubt the project, this is because he needs more time to process his feelings.<\/p>\n This is my advice as a counselor:<\/p>\n Remember that a man\u2019s biggest motivation is a happy woman. Your goal should also be a happy man, a man that will become a perfect father through fertility treatment and ensure that he is also prepared for that.<\/p>\n Good luck! Would you like to discuss your situation with us?<\/p>\n Please take 2 min to fill in the form and we will get back to you and try to help.<\/p>\nSo what motivates a man to start fertility treatment?<\/h3>\n
When a couple prepares themselves for fertility treatment, normally, a woman has already prepared herself both practically and emotionally. She gets emotional support from her friends and family, she googles and asks the clinic about every aspect of the treatment so as to be prepared for the medical part and she uses a lot of her time dreaming and thinking about her future child.<\/p>\nSo what can you do to help your man to be emotionally prepared for fertility treatment?<\/h3>\n
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