{"id":21708,"date":"2016-06-24T07:18:46","date_gmt":"2016-06-24T07:18:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/olgafertilityclinic.com\/?p=21708"},"modified":"2025-01-28T13:03:23","modified_gmt":"2025-01-28T13:03:23","slug":"another-child-embry-adoption","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/olgafertilityclinic.com\/en\/infertility-blog\/another-child-embry-adoption\/","title":{"rendered":"When your inner voice is longing for another child through double donation"},"content":{"rendered":"

Another child through double donation<\/h4>\n

Sometimes our inner voice and our mind do not agree with each other, this happens with many of my patients.<\/p>\n

I talked to a lovely patient yesterday, her inner voice told her that she was not finished with having children and that her family was not complete. Her mind and common sense told her that having two children was enough, she also knew that it would be emotionally hard for her, also a question of finance and that finally, she would also need to persuade her man if she were to decide to have another child through embryo adoption; this treatment that had already given her two miracles in life.\u00a0<\/p>\n

As a couple they had tried for 9 years to get pregnant, they had had to give up trying to get pregnant with their own genetic material and therefore had chosen to use embryo adoption. The maternal instinct and their wish for a child were stronger than their ethical and genetic concerns. She got pregnant at her first attempt, she told me about how happy she felt and how it really was a miracle to finally become a mother.\u00a0 A year after her first child was born she wanted to start fertility treatment again as she wanted a sibling for her son.<\/p>\n

She again got pregnant at her first embryo adoption attempt, her experience with embryo adoption had only been positive. After this second child created through double donation<\/strong>, she again started to feel this \u2018longing\u2019 and wish for a third child as she still did not feel \u2018complete\u2019 it was then that she started to think \u2018what is wrong with me\u2019?<\/p>\n

Now she blames herself for not being satisfied, she thinks that she should and must feel different! She has nothing to complain about, she tries to convince herself that it is enough with two children and convince herself that her inner voice is wrong.<\/p>\n

I know why her inner peace is disturbed, this is because her inner voice and her mind do not agree. They are not in balance and therefore which one should she follow? Her mind and common sense, or her inner voice?<\/p>\n

Would you like to talk to other patients, who have or used to have the same feelings as you?<\/p>\n

Please take 2 min to fill in the form and we get back to you with contacts of our patients willing to talk to you.<\/p>\n

Get in contact with embryo adoption mothers<\/a><\/p>\n

My experience as a counselor:<\/h3>\n